Being judgmental is bad... but MAN it feels good!!

Okay, introspection time.

I reread my last few posts and then immediately burst out laughing. I was so judgmental!! I can tell whenever I was being judgmental because I sound real pissed. Oh wait. That logic is a little backwards, isn't it? Hmm.

Anyways, it feels good to be judgmental for once in a while. Whenever you need to vent, you won't want to put a limit on your rage meter nor care how much you're repeating yourself. Let me tell you a story to illustrate my point:

One of my best friends came to my house one day when I was alone (this was way back when I was still in Medan, mind), and he asked to use the telephone. No problem, so I went back inside and gave him the house's wireless phone. He dialled his girlfriend's number and the next thing I knew, he shouted, bellowed, and snapped into the phone at the top of his voice. For the next 30 minutes or so I watched in amusement as he proceeded to swear and call his girlfriend names and stuff in a manner any pissed boyfriend in the world would be proud of. It was particularly funny because we were sitting in the terrace and people passing by in front of my house kept staring at our direction due to my friend's shouting and cursing. After he was done, he put the phone down and started venting. He was having a fight with his girlfriend (duh) over some trivial matter, which actually as I analyzed it, the fault was also on his side. But I always keep it my personal rule to not interrupt a person while he's letting out all his steam, so I just kept quiet and listened intently. Then he told me, well, basically he said, "I know I had a fault too in this, but I'm real angry right now, y'know. And whenever I'm angry, I don't want to hear you or anyone correct me! Anything I said is absolute and that's that! I don't want to hear anything else, eventhough I'm wrong!!" I grinned and made some more lemon tea for him.

It feels really great to be judgmental. It's bad, yes, and you certainly don't want to keep it up lest you want to endanger your social life. But now and then, there comes a boiling point in your day and you just have to let it all up and find some poor, unsuspecting sod to vent it all on... in a non-destructive way, certainly. Luckily, I'm pretty good at self-control, so I never (and will never I hope) did any irrational or destructive behavior while I'm angry. Usually I just shut up like a clam, put on a sour face and walk away. And if I happen to be in front of the computer, I put it all in scathing, unintelligible words. So if you think my previous posts are too one-sided and judgmental, talk to my hand. :)

And besides, this is my blog. So I get to write what I want. So there.